Monday, September 15, 2014
Football players are paid millions of dollars to play a game that's all about slamming the opposing players to the ground. (Fortunately, they don't get to stomp on them afterward.) We applaud those guys for being as rough and tough as they can. I'm not being critical of other fans. I'm with 'em. I love to see the opposing quarterback sacked or the wide receiver shoved out of bounds before he can catch a pass.
This week's pre-game article in the Houston paper mentioned that one of the guards has "the nasty attitude coaches love." After all that praise for doing what they're paid to do, we expect them to go home and do what we tell kids to do--use their words instead of their fists in a domestic argument. I don't know--maybe that's hard for them. Some of them--I'm not generalizing to all of them--may cone from backgrounds where tough guy behavior is the norm. Peterson's lawyer said he was only disciplining his child the way his father disciplined him. But that's no excuse, is it?.
And the NFL needs to get on board and discipline these men who are acting like animals and lashing out with all their strength. Maybe anger management needs to be as important a part of football training as tackling and running plays. What do you think?
Posted by thelmaz at 4:31 AM
Thursday, September 11, 2014
Of course you've had lots of conversations, but this is one you may have avoided. It's a conversation about one of the last taboo subjects in 21st century America. Death--yours.
Yes, you probably have a will and an advanced directive and possibly a medical power of attorney, but have you ever sat down with your family and talked frankly about
how you want to be cared for at the end of your life? What if you're unable to participate in decisions as death nears? How will your loved ones know what your wishes are? Will they make the decisions you would have chosen? What if the time comes and your family members don't know...because you've never told them.
This was exactly the situation that Boston Globe columnist Ellen Goodman found herself in as her mother neared death and could no longer speak for herself. She did her best for her mom but made it her mission that other families would not have to go through the uncertainty and confusion she did. She started The Conversation Project to encourage older...and even younger...people to call their family members together to talk about end-of-life issues. You can find more information about the project at www.theconversationproject.org
I had my family meeting before Goodman's project got underway, using The Five Wishes, available from www.agingwithdignity.org and I think it's the better of the two. You can download a copy of The Five Wishes at their website. You fill out the form, answering the 5 questions about how you want to be treated as death approaches.. You discuss this with your loved ones. Then they fill out the same forms, answering the questions as they understand your wishes. Finally you go over their responses together to be certain they reflect yours. If not, further discussion is warranted. Each of you keeps a copy of the 5 Wishes forms so all of you are on the same page "when the time comes."
I did the 5 Wishes discussion with my two adult children. When I first suggested it, they said, "Eww, we don't want to talk about that. I said, "Well, my birthday is coming up and that's what I want for a present." So they showed up, reluctantly, one Sunday morning, we had "the discussion" and afterward my daughter said, "That wasn't as bad as I expected."
I think these talks are among the most important you will have in your lifetime. If you have elderly parents, you can initiate the discussion. If you're the parent/grandparent, then you suggest it. Don't do it at the spur of the moment. Plan a time when you can all be together and when no one feels rushed. You can't give yourself or your parent a better gift.
Take care, and stop by next Thursday for Tip#7.
Posted by thelmaz at 2:07 PM
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Monday, September 8, 2014
College football is on TV. The Aggies are a team to watch, even without Johnny Football, even though we hate them for abandoning us and the beloved Thanksgiving game with Texas and moving to the SEC. The Longhorns are embarrassingly bad. I dread the October weekend when I have to watch a University of Texas game along with my nephew in Atlanta. No one is a more rabid Longhorn fan. I imagine he's already depressed after the team was trounced in their first game by BYU.
The city is ecstatic today. The Texans won their first NFL season game after losing 14 in a row last year. J.J. Watt, our city's hero, blocked a point-after-touchdown kick, something the commentators couldn't believe because such a thing almost never happens. Will the season be better than last year's? Couldn't be worse. We're all crossing our fingers.
Posted by thelmaz at 5:11 AM
Thursday, September 4, 2014
I think this is a good thing to do, after you lose a spouse or when both of you are still healthy and death is some vague event "in the future." Life is fragile. You never know when you will need those papers, so keep them handy and available to those who will need them.
Take care, and I hope you'll stop by next Thursday for Tip#6.
Posted by thelmaz at 5:06 AM
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
I chose this quote because it reminded me of the day my high school Latin teacher picked up my messy loose-leaf notebook and said to me, "A muddled notebook shows a muddled mind."
Posted by thelmaz at 1:59 PM
Monday, September 1, 2014
Posted by thelmaz at 7:25 PM