Wiggle your toes.
Set priorities in your life.
Avoid negative people.
Use time wisely
Always make copies of important papers.
Anticipate your needs.
Ask for help with the jobs you dislike.
Break large tasks into bites size portions.
Look at problems as challenges.
Repair anything that doesn't work properly (or get someone else to do it).
Look at challenges differently/
Unclutter your life.
Be prepared for rain.
Tickle a baby.
Pet a friendly dog/cat.
Don't know all the answers.
Avoid relying on chemical aids.
Avoid tight-fitting clothes.
Get up fifteen minutes earlier.
Prepare for the morning the night before.
Set appointments ahead.
Don't rely on your memory. Write it down.
Practice preventive maintenance.
Make duplicate keys.
Say no more often.
Look for the silver lining.
Say something nice to someone.
Teach a kid to fly a kite.
Walk in the rain.
Schedule play time into every day.
Take a bubble bath.
Be aware of the decisions you make.
Believe in yourself.
Ask a friend for a hug.
Develop your sense of humor.
Have goals for yourself.
Learn to whistle a tune.
Listen to a symphony.
Look up at the stars.
Practice breathing slowly.
Read a poem.
Say hello to a stranger.
Stop saying negative things to yourself.
Do a new thing.
Read a story curled up in bed.
Stop thinking tomorrow will be a better day; think today is a better day.
Visualize yourself winning.
Watch a ballet.
Stop a bad habit.
Buy yourself a flower.
Take time to smell the roses.
Find support from others.
Ask someone to be your vent-partner.
Work at being cheerful and optimistic.
Put safety first.
Do everything in moderation.
Pay attention to your appearance.
Always have a plan.
Be responsible for your feelings.
Become a better listener.
Feed the birds.
Hum a jingle.
Learn a new doodle.
Look at a work of art.
Maintain your weight.
Plant a tree.
Stretch your limits a little each day.
Strive for excellence, not perfection.
Learn to meet your own needs.
Memorize a joke.
Practice grace under pressure.
Go fishing or learn to fish.
Stand up and stretch.
Know your limitations and let other know them, too.
Tell someone to have a good day in Pig Latin.
Throw a paper airplane.
Exercise every day.
Learn the words to a new song.
Get to work early.
Clean out one closet.
Play patty cake with a toddler.
Go on a picnic.
Take a different route to work.
Leave work early (with permission).
Put air freshener in your car.
Watch a movie and eat popcorn.
Write a note to a faraway friend.
Go to a ballgame and scream.
cook a meal and eat it by candlelight.
Freely praise other people.
Get enough sleep.
Have a support network of people, places and things.
Keep a journal.
Practice a monster smile.
Quit trying to "fix" other people.
Recognize the importance of unconditional love.
Remember that stress is an attitude.
Remember you always have options.
Take less and listen more.
Relax. Take each day at a time.
You're alone for the first time in years. It's scary. You hear creaks in the house at 2:00 a.m. You worry that someday you'll fall down the stairs and there won't be anyone around to call 911. I've experienced those same fears and I have two suggestions for dealing with them.
1, Have an alarm system installed. We never had one. My husband didn't feel it was necessary. It was one of the first things I did after he died. It made me feel much more secure and is worth the monthly fee.
2. Get a Life Alert button or similar system so that if you fall, you can push the little button and someone will respond immediately. (You do have to wear the button, which my children remind me I often neglect to do.) Some systems work only in your house and the immediate vicinity; I believe others can be taken with you when you are away as well. Again, you'll feel much more secure. Check on Amazon for information.
Life is sad when you've just lost a loved one. The world seems bleak and gray. But you can try to find something each day to make you smile. Not a big thing, just something small like a rose bush bursting into bloom, a smile from someone passing by, a sitcom that makes you chuckle, an email from a friend, a sunrise, a sunset. At the end of the day I tally all the things that brought me a bit of cheer. If you do that, you begin to look for things that light a spark of joy. Try it.
That's the last of my 11 tips, but know what? I think I have a few more, so in the next week or weeks I'll add an addendum. Take care.
Thursday, October 16 will be the ninth anniversary of my husband's death. In some ways it seems like yesterday; in others it seems forever.
On the last Valentine he gave me was a quote from First Corinthians:
Love bears all things,
Believes all things,
Hopes all things,
Endures all things.
Love never fails.
In one of Daniel Silva's older books Israeli spy/art restorer must thwart a plot to kill the Pope. Why is an Israeli doing this? Why not? A really good thriller. It gets an A.
Historical novel about the powerful D'Este sisters and their friendship with Leonardo Da Vinci. Never felt I got to know the characters, although I did find the parts about Leonardo's painting of The Last Supper interesting. B or B-
Very short book, consisting of three essays. The first two, on hot air ballooning did not hold my interest but the third, on grief, was amazing. I've read many books about grief but never anything as true as this one. Skip the first two parts. The third gets an A.
A family court judge visits a young man with leukemia, with far-reaching consequences. This wasn't as good as some of his other books, a bit too predictable, but I enjoyed it. A-
I was cleaning out my bookshelf and came upon this book. I don't remember when, where or why I bought it, and I know I never read it, but it appeared at just the right time for me. Having spent a couple of months in pain this summer and as a teenager having suffered third degree burns, I found this books to be a poignant description of the author's experience of illness and pain. This is a book I will keep. A+
This book alternates between two people with "five days left." One is dealing with Huntington's chorea, the other with giving up a foster child he's come to love. Those two don't seem to balance each other out. This is a first novel and reads like one. We get to know the characters but don't really feel for them, at least I didn't. B+
I read a lot this month, didn't I? Not sure how I managed to fit all these books in, but two were short.
I'm the mother of three, grandmother of two, slave of two demanding cats. I've been a widow for four years and have taught resource courses for widows and widowers. I've written romance novels. See my website at www.eclectics.com/ lornamichaels. Currently I'm working on a memoir titled Stumbing Through the Dark.
More about me: Born in Austin, TX
Favorite color: purple
Favorite song: The Wind Beneath My Wings (hear it as you read this blog)
Like to: read, cook, travel (last big trip was to Spain) write, learn new things.
Hate to: exercise